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Originally posted by angelove
it's completely unrealistic to have a child as a teenager, then expect your life to go on as normal.
it's completely unrealistic to have a child at ANY point and expect your life to go on as "normal"... it comes with the territory of having kids. You life with your kids, whatever your situation, becomes your "normal".
And are you really setting a good example for your child by leaving her with a babysitter while you go to a social? Despite what the magazines said in the '80s, you can't have it all - especially if you want to make good grades so you can get a good job to support your child.
Do you feel the same way about women who work? Tell this to every woman in your office who has kids and isn't at home. You're saying the responsibilities of being in a sorority are more than that of a company exec.? There are a LOT of those with little babies..
We looked for PNMs who would be willing to give us a lot of their time - not possible for young mothers (at least if they are doing a good job of mothering). I'm sure there will be lots of replies to this, but I feel very strongly that a woman should choose motherhood or Greek life - but she can't have both.
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I take personal offense to that... not because I'm a mom or plan to be any time soon, but because I'm one of the kids who *obviously* had a terrible childhood, never saw her mother and was raised so horribly because
my mom was in college, making the dean's list, keeping scholarships, and RUNNING her chapter while i wasted away alone in my crib all the day long.
Clearly, you need to think before you type. I'm sorry if you feel the way you feel, but don't imply that other people can't live and achieve outside of your box.
(longwinded, but... not everybody can be on POINT like MamaNaturale is!)