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Yes, there were strippers in the video and they were doing things that I wouldn't be caught dead doing. But you also have to acknowledge the fact that it came on at like 3 in the morning. So, if children were watching television at that time, we have an issue with parenting, more than with the video.

We cannot say that because an artist makes a vulgar song, our children are forced to look at these images. We CHOOSE to have cable and CHOOSE to pay for it. We CHOOSE to buy cds and concert tickets. If we are concerned about the state of black women in the media, let's start there. Don't subscribe to cable, protest BET, don't go to the concert. I just don't believe that the best way to exercise our right to protest is when the artist is actually promoting a good cause. Sure there are other organizations that promote good causes, but that's not the point. His organization was invited and scheduled to appear. He was not there to perform or sell records.

Now, if he was cancelled because he refused to discuss his videos or reason for vulgar songs, I have to ask why was he even invited in the first place? That's like me inviting someone to my house to sell Mary Kay, but I tell her that she has to discuss her views on abortion with me. She refuses and I make a big deal about her not coming to my house. Well, I didn't make it known from the beginning that we were there to discuss abortion.

Parents have to take responsibility for educating their children and instilling pride and self esteem. The problem is not Nelly teaching children that it's ok to swipe credit cards in a woman. The problem is not letting our children know ahead of time that we are better than that and don't have to stoop to that level.