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Originally posted by Ideal08
Girl, you ain't said nothin' but a word. 
RBL, yes Phrat, it is that grim/dire. Five years ago, no it wasn't. Today, at 30, yes it is. My mother had me when she was 32. I always thought my parents were so old because they were so much older than my friends' parents. Then my parents died when I was 19. So yes, for me, it's pretty dire. I'm not trying to have kids and die when they are that young. It was hard for me, and I don't want my kids to have to go through the same thing. That may sound like an irrational fear to some of you, but you aren't living my reality. I'm not walking around ready to slit my wrists from not having a mate, no, it's not THAT serious. But it is, as Darius said in Love Jones, urgent like a MF.
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Gurlllll.....
I feel you on this so much, Ideal. My parents were mom 32 and dad 31 when I was born. I felt the exact same way growing up becuase they had usually 8 or so years on everyone else's parents and then my mom died a year ago and it felt like all of that start a family presure came crashing down on me even harder. Now I had waited so long, she was not even hear to see it. I feel that urgency, too and sometimes it is frightening to feel that way.