[RBL]

Originally posted by Ideal08
Girl, you ain't said nothin' but a word.

RBL, yes Phrat, it is that grim/dire. Five years ago, no it wasn't. Today, at 30, yes it is. My mother had me when she was 32. I always thought my parents were so old because they were so much older than my friends' parents. Then my parents died when I was 19. So yes, for me, it's pretty dire. I'm not trying to have kids and die when they are that young. It was hard for me, and I don't want my kids to have to go through the same thing. That may sound like an irrational fear to some of you, but you aren't living my reality. I'm not walking around ready to slit my wrists from not having a mate, no, it's not THAT serious. But it is, as Darius said in Love Jones, urgent like a MF.

Wow I'm so sorry to hear that about your parents. I'm 27 and my sister is 32 and she has a 5 yr old son. We had a similar conversation and she said I just don't get it b/c I'm male and men are never in a rush to get married. I think I just see it in a different perspective because it has always seemed to me that women shun really good brothers for one reason or another..mostly for superficial reasons. Then later in life when that brother they shunned turn into a prince(so to speak) then they start with the "what if's" or the regrets.... now I'm speaking about my sister b/c she has fell into that situation on more than one occasion. Now she is at a point where she feels she has to be/should be married soon, and honestly I think in an attempt to meet the one she may end up with the wrong guy, because she wants to married so badly... that's why I asked the question if the situation was that grim b/c if it is it could lead to potentially bad choices. My sister is beautiful and smart, but she can be an idiot when it comes to brothers