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Originally posted by Ideal08
I'm saying that I WANT mine and I'm tired of waiting. See, people get uncomfortable with these types of conversations. All of a sudden we are desperate and need to quit looking. Who said any of us were looking for anything? I'm trying to WAIT patiently. That does not get rid of the feelings of inadequacy, loneliness, horniness, etc. Like a good friend of mine says, we need to start telling the truth.
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Then you are doing the right thing by putting it out there. I have a girlfriend who will celebrate her 2nd anniversary this year who did the same thing. Girlfriend let any and everyone know that she was actively looking for a MATE--not a date. She would go out on a first date with almost anyone. She had a good job, car, own home, education, etc and she was ready. Now this does not mean that she accepted anything. Like I said, she went out on a lot of first dates, but had to end it right there with a lot of them. She also got out there. She developed new hobbies, took classes that would put her in the company of men. If the man she met at these events was married, so what. She was like "you got any friends??". At first I was a little worried about her, but she was as serious about her quest as she was other aspects of her life. She met her hubby at a small get together given by a friend of a friend.
I think the reason a lot of married folks say the "be patient" "don't hurry love" kinda stuff is they know what it looks like from the other side. Just like a none sorority member could not understand the interworkings of AKA and the sisterhood, no matter how many stories she has heard, a single person really can't understand some of the stuff you may go through as a married person. I know a lot of people who say "if I knew then, what I know now..." regarding their marriage. Not to say they wouldn't get married, but would do things a little differently.
Conskeeted I know how you feel about the baby thing. I've been married for almost 8 years and don't have children. Initially this was by choice, and after 4 years of no birth control still no children. Folks just need to mind their own business. When people piss me off I just tell them that I can't have children and most shut the heck up because they are embarassed. Serves them right for being nosy!