I would amend your post Laidbackfella to just list #1 but take #2 out. "1. Always use protection. It's just not safe anymore." To me, it doesn't make sense to do #2 b/c you may find out that you are HIV positive by fooling around with someone in an unprotected manner. I know that testing is important but at the end of the day, I think that our primary focus should be in making sure that the behavior that we practice does not subject us to the disease in the first place.
I say leave it at your #1 and if he doesn't want to use protection, don't fool with him. If he's not using protection with YOU, no telling how long he has been carrying on the behavior of having unprotected sex. Further, even if he is HIV-negative when you are first tested, if he cheats and has unprotected sex (or there is some other problem like condom breakage) he could STILL transmit it to you. I say have protected sex ALL THE TIME and just leave it at that. I like your other listings (besides #2) as well.
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Originally posted by laidbackfella
I am a Heterosexual Man who does not want, need, nor seek the touch of a male. My ONLY choice is a woman. Yesterday, Today and Tomorrow.
Just a few tips for the ladies. I am tired of hearing DL Brothas being used as the main reason why AIDS is on the rise. Ladies, YOU, have to take responsibility for what goes on as far as your health is concerned.
Trust is one thing, but you can't simply be a passenger in your life and let someone take you for a ride.
1. Always use protection. It's just not safe anymore.
2. If he doesn't want to use protection, INSIST on getting a test every three months.
3. If you suspect that he is steppin out, with a male or female, stop having sex with him.
4. Talk about sex BEFORE you have sex. A lot of y'all wanna be spontaneous. Take time and find out about his practices before you "Get Busy".
5. It's OK to tell a man NO. It's your body. It's your perogative.
This 'discovery' of Black Men on the DL is another link in the unraveling of our Black Community. I will postulate on the exact ramifications but know that this is tearing us apart. Soon you will only have a few "choice" as far as mainstream thought is concerned to date.
Don't trust your man, Trust yourself.
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