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Originally posted by Jorrie96
Hi All,

Please excuse me for the long posting but I just have to vent for a moment. Where, oh where, can I find a single, good brother (in North Carolina) who isn't bothered by the fact that I've done well?

My last boyfriend and I started out at about the same pay rate and over three years we both applied for two promotions. He got neither and I got them both. Our salaries went from about the same to my salary being almost three times his. This freaked him out as he said he made him feel less like a man.

I've talked to some of my male friends about this and they confirmed that this can be a definite issue in a relationship and that some guys find a self-sufficient woman intimadating.

I own my home and have a nice car but I NEVER mention those things now when I meet someone. I shouldn't have to downplay the things I've earned but I've come to learn that it may not be such a bad idea.

Has anyone heard of the club in New York that requires a bio in order to become a member? The men and women have to meet certain criteria (income level, education, no kids or something like that..don't remember all of the story). At first I thought it was a horrible idea but now it sort of makes sense.

And in case some people are wondering I HONESTLY could care less how much he makes or what he drives (where he lives is a different story...he shouldn't still be living with Mom if he is still in his 30's ) ..I just want someone who genuinely cares about me and values my company.

Has anyone else run into this? I feel like I'm running out of ideas on where to meet people and as 31 creeps upon me I worry about this more and more.

<Sigh> Maybe it is just me (yes, I have thought about that too!)

Again, I apologize for the rant but sometimes the world seems to be all coupled up and I feel totally left out

PS I'm serious about knowing someone in NC. If you do drop me a line

Lord help! I was thinking of moving to NC in the next couple of years.

Hmm. This relationship thing. I want a husband and children. I too, am starting to feel like an old maid. I see soooooo many people who are married and in wonderful relationships. Personally, I have some things that I need to work on. However, I don't think that I need to be perfect before I get married. THe sad thing, is that I thought I finally met "the one", but alas.

Also, I was discussing this with a friend the other day. Successful women of a certain age start to feel inadequate. I mean, I can accomplish things that so many people cannot, yet, I am a failure at something ANYONE can do. Re-re on the corner has a husband.