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This is such a relevant topic for me right now. My boyfriend and I recently broke up. It was sort of mutual, but sort of his idea. Things were getting kind of comfortable and not as great and fun as they had been. I thought we should work on it. He said that he had been working on things and if I was "the one" then it wouldn't be work, everything would just naturally be perfect all the time (he has much to learn!). Because he had never been in a real, long-term relationship, he didn't have anyone to compare our relatively small problems too. He didn't realize that what we had was actually pretty great.
I'm not saying he made a mistake, or that we woulda/coulda/shoulda spent our lives together - I think that typically, no matter what course a relationship takes, two people will almost always end up at the same point and things go the way they should - even when it sucks. I just believe that you can't ever know that you have the "best" - you just have to believe that you do. Maybe that's stupid, but you know, love is supposed to be blind and all, and you just have to have faith that when you find a good thing, you don't need to keep searching just because someone else *might* be better. You can't date everyone in the world to know that you have the best, so you just have to have enough experience to serve as a good reference point.
And, yes, everyone deserves to get that experience so that one day they can be confident in their choices. As much as I would have liked to have grabbed my boyfriend and said "please don't go, you'll regret it later - we're great together" - he just has to learn that for himself.
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