I think any woman who puts herself in the situation needs to own up to her resposibilites. Meaning she needs to be honest and let everyone involved know that they may or may not be the father of her child. And not make any accusations until the DNA tests comes back.
Regardless of what the woman may think, by lying (or being misleading) she's hurting her child (by them living life not knowing who their real dad is), the man (who's spent time, love and money on a kid that aint even theirs), and herself for having to live with a horrible lie.
Is it fair for the mother to expect this man to remain a part of her child's life? I guess in her convoluted (sp?) mind she might think so, but I dont. This wasnt a fair game from the start.....
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[This message has been edited by prettypoodle6 (edited January 18, 2001).]