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Originally posted by The Original Ape:
Suppose the man tells the girl that he has enough children and he aint trying to have any more. He sets out his condoms; and while he's in the bathroom, the girl punctures his condom because she wants a "pretty baby with 'good'hair". Unaware of what happens, he does his thing and finds out later that she is pregnant. She has this baby-and NO BOYFRIEND willing to pay child support. By law, he is stuck with paying child support.
Is THIS fair(just)?
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That comment about good hair and a pretty baby was a flashback. That's what someone told me a couple of weeks ago.
But to answer your question...If a guy tells a girl he has enough kids (with a S) and she still tries to get pregnant by him...well she's just a silly ass hoe. (Excuse my french, but she's stupid. He blatantly came out of his mouth said I've been around and as a result I have mad kids that I can't take care of. Well almost said that)
I don't think it's fair. And legally unless he gives up all rights there's nothing he can do, but fork up.
I'm partial to this whole debate on a guy paying child support. I don't think it should be court mandated (but in certain situations it's needed.) I feel as though if I guy doesn't want to support his child, well no one including the gov't should force him to. And as a woman I feel as though you shouldn't make him if the situation is like any we've been discussing.
This is a total tangent, but there are so many young girls out there that think "If I have his baby we will always be together!!!!" And they don't understand if Tiasha and Sha-nala already has his child and EsLawn is pregnant the same time you are..."How are you going to be together forever?"
I've read of too many situations in which the broad uses the money for other things besides the welfare of the child. Situations like that make me sick.
Not to put my business out here. But I told little man's dad if somethign were to happen to me or we were to ever fall out (again...I wanted a race car bed not train. let me stop tripping) make sure he saves every receipt from where he bought little man stuff. In NC they are so strict on child support. In some counties they can make the man pay back child support(including a large majority of the hospital bills and if she received welfare) from the day the child was conceived(not birth, but conception.)It's like as soon as I found out I was pregnant some of my friends were like hit him up for child support because their man didn't do such and such. Then they were like no wait until he graduates that way you can get backpay. My thing is I would rather for my child to have an emotional father around rather than a child support check.
I lost a lot of friends when they found out we were still friends and I wasn't trying to get his money. That's why I have no sympathy for anyone that tries to take and manipulate a guy just for child support. Notice the word is child...not maternal. Now mind you the support is supposed to help pay rent, food and etc. But I think most of it should go to clothes, diapers and etc first!!!! Why???? Because if you didn't have this baby your azz would still need a place to stay and food to eat.
Sorry this was so long, and I was jumping from tangent to tangent. It's just that I don't understand how a woman can trick a man into fatherhood, especially if it's just for child support. But this reminds me of something I was reading at school. It was in the athletic building. It was an article on how pretty women were sleeping with athletes in the NFL and NBA hoping to get pregnant to draw child support checks. What do ya'll think about that.