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frat2b, you bring up a very touchy subject. And, you're right to expect a couple of different replies--ones that may fall on opposite ends of the spectrum. I would like to offer my personal take, based on my Christian walk and what I believe to be true of God's expectations. I do not and will not speak for any organization or individual.

I pledged a sorority in 1997 and thoroughly enjoyed black greek life. However, before and during that time, I had no relationship with God and did not know His Word. A couple of years ago, that all changed (that's why I haven't been posting on GreekChat like I used to). He saved me, called me into serious ministry, and has given me a major purpose for the kingdom. More importantly, I have received His Holy Spirit, who has helped me fully dissect and understand the divine Word of God. Given what the Spirit has revealed and what I now believe to be true, I have chosen not to be an active member of my sorority in order that I may be an active member of the Body of Christ. I have much biblical basis for my decision, but the following sealed it for me:

No man can serve two masters: for either he will hate the one, and love the other; or else he will hold to the one, and despise the other. Ye cannot serve God and mammon. (Matthew 6:24)

I would be lying to you if I said that I regret my decision to pledge. I had some wonderful times and met some outstanding people. There are people on GC that I care about, which is why I still pop in every blue moon. Yet, even after I crossed, there was still a void in my heart because I knew I was not in God's will. Now that I am walking in synchronized steps with the Lord, I see the greek system and life in general (work, money, relationships, etc.) very differently. This may not be the case for others, and that's fine-- I can't be concerned with what works or doesn't work for anyone else but me. My relationship with God and my Christian walk are irrevocable, nonnegotiable, and nondebatable. A true Christian does not and will not ostracize another for being active, just as I expect others to respect my decision to be inactive.

At the end of the day, you have to make the decision that's best for you, given what you know and believe God's purpose, requirements, instructions, and expectations are for YOUR life.

Hit me up with a PM if you care to talk more on the subject