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Originally posted by TonyB06
It's always better to know.
But it's not clear from the narrative whether they were an "exclusive" couple. Exclusivity, something central to a lasting relationship, shouldn't be left to assumption. Yeah, dude's actions look a bit sheisty here, but if they hadn't agreed they only wanted each other, then either is free to at least look around. His actions suggest that he wasn't as sure as the woman (your friend) was. That, by the way, is nobody's fault, it just is.
As to the internet "cheating" thing, I agree (my opinion's changed a bit in this area) with ladylike that "a mental connection/affair can be more damaging to a relationship than a physical/connection affair." As we mature we tend to look deeper in others, making it possible to connect on deeper levels -- but if you're connecting with someone other than your spouse, then "Houston, we have a problem!"
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Ok to clarify the situations...
From my understanding they were both in a exclusive relationship. Now I am only hearing the side of the female because she is my friend. So what they really agreed to then I will never know. She told me that they were definitely talking about marriage a lot and might I add...THEY ARE LIVING TOGETHER. My friend's predicament is, she is wondering if she should throw away a 1yr+ of a relationship with a man that she is truly in love with and has all the qualities that she desires (minus the unfaithfulness)?
She feels that if she was never snooping around then she wouldnt be caught in this predicament. So in her mind, she feels that it is better not to know.
I agree with you reddawn18, Me, myself, personally would want to know. Give me the option! And besides if there is another female that you are involve with whether it is mentally or physically that other person is taking up a space that your significant other should be occupying. Thats how i feel about.
I like what everyone is saying, i told my friend to read some of the opinions but i dont know if she is or not. but thanks for the response.
LIKE GRANDMA USED TO SAY: Girl, not facing your problems don't mean they will go away. It's just like sweeping the dirt up under the rug, just cause you dont see it no mo', dont mean the dirt aint still there.
