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I'm in a similar situation where every so often I can't have sex (there are very good reasons that I won't get into). I know my bf tries to be supportive but I can see it is really hard for him to go without. I let him know that I would have sex if I could, but it's not my choice. Recently though he's started to question if it is my choice, and if I am holding out etc. It's very trying, since I am doing no such thing. But his suspicions make me less and less in the mood. Also, because he isn't getting a whole lot he ALWAYS talkes about sex during these short week to two week bursts. And that turns me off even more because I start thinking: geeze! All he wants to do is have sex. Can't we spend time together not in the bedroom?
If you want to be with him, tell him that. But a sexaul realtionship does indeed include sex. If you don't want that in a realtionship, you need to strike out and find someone who will wait until marriage or accept your decision.
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