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I stood up in a wedding I didn't agree with (different type of drama but drama nonetheless) because people kept saying "you can't pull out-you need to be there for your friend". After going through all that drama I have to say that's bull.
Weddings are stressful enough as it is-but to stand there and watch someone make a mockery of wedding vows is a line I'll never cross again. Yes, we lost our friendship (I haven't spoken to her since the wedding), but frankly it wasn't worth saving any longer-we were moving in different directions & by the choices she was making and defending she was intent on staying entrenched in those drama filled college days (when you're young and really want to believe all his TALK when his ACTIONS show differently).
So my advice is do what you feel comfortable with. If that means pulling out do so but be prepared for backlash from her and others. She may not want you to just attend and may disinvite you all together for messing with her wedding day vision.
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