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Originally posted by 33girl
I don't quite agree with that. Whether the obnoxious chapter's GPA is highest, lowest, whatever...you're NOT supposed to talk about other sororities, good or bad, during rush. You're supposed to talk up your own sorority, not talk the others down, even if it is an open forum.
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I guess it depends on the statement and how it was worded. If it was...
"Our chapter GPA is the highest on campus"--I don't see that as an infraction. Merely a statement of fact.
"Our chapter GPA is higher than XYZ's"--could have been stated better, but then again, I don't think it's an obvious infraction
"Well, if you want to know about XYZ's GPA, you need to go ask them. Then compare the two answers."--Actually within the recruitment rules because they aren't answering questions about XYZ, they're referring the person to XYZ to get the info and make up their own mind. Of course, tone of voice (which I have no knowledge of) could definitely change the intent of this statement.
From what anapanda said....
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for example, according to our current recruitment chair, this chapter during an open forum session told the pnms to go over to another chapter and ask what their GPA was and see the difference between them and us.
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It doesn't sound like the girls in question were "talking about another sorority". It sounds like they were telling PNMs to get the info on their own (by going to ask XYZ about their GPA) and then see the difference. Maybe the PNM asked "What's the difference in your GPA and XYZs GPA?" Going by the words alone (and not tone of voice, inflection, implied intent, etc.), the sorority member gave an appropriate answer. Granted, it could have been worded a little better, but no one has control of that now.
My point is that if it wasn't a clear infraction, don't let people see you get tense about it. Focus your energy on what you can control, not what you can't. If your group (XYZ in this case) were in the same room during the open forum and had PNMs marching over saying "ABC told me to come ask you about your GPA so I can compare the two" and your nonverbal reaction is to tense up and get bothered by that, you're going to send a message to that PNM that you're threatened by ABC for some reason. You may answer the GPA question with less confidence, or stumble through your answer, or not be able to come back with a different selling point. If a PNM can read that, it's a turnoff...whether she knows why you are upset or not.
Recruitment IS about seeing the difference in this chapter and that chapter.
I'm just speaking on the GPA example anapanda gave....I don't have enough info on the other examples to interpret. But I do know that on our campus we were allowed to wear all the paraphernalia we could possibly pack onto our bodies/cars/boyfriends in the 2-3 weeks before recruitment. I believe we even wore shirts/etc. during recruitment as well. So the slogan thing on shirts doesn't bother me, unless they are out and out lying. Then we have a false advertising issue.
PsychTau