Don't fight every little obnoxious thing they do.
I know....someone might misread that. I'm NOT saying to just lie down and let them walk all over you. Take the GPA example for instance. It's easy to find out group GPAs...it's probably published somewhere on the school's website or in a handbook or something. So, instead of wasting all of your energy worrying about how they pointed out their higher GPA (because in recruitment, OF COURSE you're gonna point out what you're the best at....), turn your energy onto either raising your GPA, or not being as snotty as them, or working to be the best in something else. If they have a higher GPA requirement, some wonderful, worthwhile girls are automatically going to get cut from that group. They could be a good addition to your group, but you gotta focus on something else you can offer them.
Chances are they know they've got everyone else in a tizzy over their tactics, and it keeps the focus on them and away from YOUR chapter. If you refuse to give them that attention and energy, they dynamics will change. If they are the only sorority doing this stuff and everyone else is sick of it and refuses to respond to it, pretty soon they'll be the outlier...the other groups will have a great bond and be able to draw a majority of the PNMs in because of that.
Now, if they are blatantly breaking a recruitment rule, that's a different story not addressed in this post.
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for example, according to our current recruitment chair, this chapter during an open forum session told the pnms to go over to another chapter and ask what their GPA was and see the difference between them and us. to me, that is very unpanhellenic and i'm honestly not surprised that it happened.
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If it bothers your group to have someone compare the difference between your GPA and theirs, you've got some work to do on your GPA. Quit focusing on what you cannot change (their behavior) and focus on what you can change (your behavior).
And if you just want to stoop to that obnoxious level, find out how many study hall hours they require in order to keep that GPA. If they militantly require 3 study hall hours each night, and your group doesn't, point out how your group values the different study habits of its members and encourages them to succeed on their own, rather than requiring so much time from them.
But I would take the focus off them. They're upsetting the apple cart, they know it, and that gives them a perceived power advantage. Don't feed into that.
PsychTau