A lot of that has to do with how a woman looks also JAM. Men tend to view women on the dating field as a commodity. Its rare that an objectively aesthetically pleasing woman won't have an abundance of dating opportunities . .
That is of course modifed by her hang-ups and maybe her parental controls.
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Originally posted by justamom
It's easy to understand both situations.
LOTS of girls in HS didn't date. Maybe they were very conservative, maybe they just weren't ready. Some girls move faster than they want because of all the pressure and the mindset that "everyone else is doing it".
Then comes college. Many of the guys they meet have higher expectations from their dates than "she" has ever experienced.
Or, she may not meet anyone that makes her feel that desire.
LOT'S of girls don't date steadily in college. If, like many, she is asking friends to accompany her to functions, not having sex is totally understandable-be it for religious or personal preference.
So they graduate. It's a little harder to meet guys and the ones they do are just not appealing. What do you expect them to do?
Just "do it" to get it over with? Now, by this time, I would think they would have experienced at least a "kiss", but if not, so what
UNLESS-they take a stance that it is degrading, sinful, or only see it in a negative light. Same with Sex. If they do not judge others as "going to hell" for THEIR choices, then it doesn't appear to be a problem for them as much as it appears to be a problem for OTHERS. Everyone should be allowed to choose their own moral compass.
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