This is such a fun thread!
I got my first choice! Of course, I have to tell my story...be forewarned, it's very long!
Freshman year I didn't join a sorority - I didn't want to be a part of that scene. Over the summer b/w fresh. & soph. year I lived on a floor with one of the girls in group A. She was awesome! Through her I met several other girls of A who were all wonderful. I knew right then and there that I was meant to be an A. I saw rush only as a formality; I knew this was the group I wanted and didn't care about any of the others.
Rush starts - boy does Rush mess with your head! After the first night I realized that A wasn't as great as I thought they were. The girls I knew from A were probably their best girls (and they were, really) as none of the other A girls were like them, so I started rethinking what I really wanted. I also knew that of the 6 groups, I didn't want B because the 3 or 4 girls I knew I hated (so I dropped them after the first night), and I didn't want C because the girls I knew from my classes were just plain mean (dropped them after the second night). I was very impressed with D and E and VERY IMPRESSED with Alpha Xi. I was confused because I really wanted to explore my options with D, E and Alpha Xi, but I felt obligated to A, so after Day 3 when I had to drop two (you can only have 2 choices going into Preference), I didn't know which ones I was going to drop. I agonized all night over the decision. The next day I preffed group A and Alpha Xi.
Went to Alpha Xi's preference first, and I was sold. I knew that this was where I belonged. I went to A's pref. next, and the whole time it was like I was sitting in someone else's body just going through the motions. I was miserable. When bid card signing came, I KNEW I was guaranteed a bid from A. I knew I would be miserable with A and it wasn't where I belonged and I wanted to be in Alpha Xi sooooo badly (at that point it was more a question of did they want me - they were the top group on campus and I was so afraid I wasn't good enough to be picked by them)! So, I listed Alpha Xi first, A second, then E and D and left off the other two. If I got a bid from B or C I wasn't joining a sorority. Period.
Anyways, bid day came....I was nervous. One of my rho chis was one of the girls from group A whom I had met over the summer...of course I couldn't tell her I was no longer interested in her group so I was so nervous she would say something mean if I got a bid from Alpha Xi and not her sorority. The Panhel. rush secretary had already said something mean earlier in the week (she was another member of A with whom I had hung out over the summer) when I told her that I had gotten really confused. She was like, "I thought you knew what you wanted." Anyways, my rho chis came with my bid and I opened that envelope so slowly....
Well we all know I got a bid from Alpha Xi! I was ecstatic. Turns out...most of the girls that I knew in A desistered that semester, and the chapter eventually folded. Isn't it funny how the rush process really does put you with the group you're supposed to be with?
