hi everyone, right now i'm looking to possibly join a sorority next fall, not sure though, and i'm definitely concerned about hazing.
i know that some really ugly things do occur and i'm of the opinion, stated in this thread by others, that when the hazing mentality begins in HS it DOES carry over into university level. i unfortunately know people who are living proof of this.
my HS has freshman initiation day and the stuff that the senior girls do is even more disgusting than the boys. i went to it this year although i didn't participate, that is, i didn't do anything to anyone, but i do feel guilt for not doing anything at all, if you know what i mean. it's a bad situation to be in, wanting to speak up or do something and feeling like you're the only one who see's something seriously wrong with it. what makes it so frustrating is that everyone knows about it, every year some people get a slap on the wrist for doing things that SHOULD warrant criminal charges and imo, intensive psychotherapy! i didn't go to my school until my junior year but you hear about what happened to who and so forth, and when i went this year i couldn't believe what goes on even though beforehand people were saying that it's not all that bad - yeah, right! i ended up losing friends and parting ways with some girls i know because i was so freaked out by what they did.
it's pretty much the same kind of stuff that happens at glenbrook, il except they make different competitions out of girls eating and drinking disgusting things, and yes, i mean DISGUSTING, ok?
lots of people refer to it as "yak day" because there is quite a bit of throwing up involved and licking certain body parts. those girls are degraded bigtime, that's the only point of it but the ones who willingly go along with it, even if they're totally grossed out, are accepted and some of them go on to be in the popular clique. all of this goes on as most of the senior girls laugh their asses off and say cruel things to them. do you really think that people like that are going to suddenly change the way they are by the next year when they go to college? not exactly.
everyone knows about it, there are freshman girls who actually look foward to it(!!!???)and especially this year people were really hush hush about where and when because of the glenbrook powder puff getting into the news. a few parents complained to the school but it's like no one wants the publicity and they don't want to have to explain why it is they raised a daughter who would either do something so horrible to another person or why their daughter would volunteer to go through it. they can either show up or not, but some of the freshman who avoid it are outcasts, some of them end up getting picked on and beaten up, or in a few cases, they'll later submit to being hazed at a party or something which is usually worse because it's a smaller group with no one watching. and yes, i know of some local sorority hazing that goes on that is pretty much in direct relation to what they do at freshman initiation. some of the seniors even justify their attitude about it because of that.
so yeah, i had my eyes opened this year and really had to look at people that i thought i knew in a different light, and that includes some sororities. some people apparently have no conscience at all, and it makes me cringe to read some of these hazing examples in this thread because it's ridiculous to think that people who don't have any problem mistreating people at the HS senior level are going to stop being that way when they get to college. even if some hazing doesn't go too far, it's demeaning and only exists so that some people can feel as though they're ABOVE other people, they get off on it and it really sucks. show me any hazing initiation that goes on regularly, even if it seems innocent, and i'll show you people who have been hurt, emotionally and/or physically, or, it's only a matter of time in that type of sadistic atmosphere when people will get hurt. and to think that these sicko's do this crap for fun!? sometimes i simply do not understand the things people value. ugh! all and every type of hazing needs to stop, but if there's always people who want it happen, there will always be those who do it or choose to have it done to them. why? IGNORANCE
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