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Originally posted by Valkryie:
Why do you say that?
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Because I hold it to be true. Though media body images usually lean toward toned for both sexes, there are rarely deviations in magazines using male models from six pack/washboard stomach, toned arms etc; often however there will be examples of many degrees of waif v. curvaceous depictions of women. Despite Russ' comment about banter between heterosexual guys toward each other and between one another; guys have it worse when it comes to being overweight.
A girl can carry some extra weight around just fine and there is little question if she went out and about at night and she could pull/hookup etc. As for longer term relationships, the same equally applies - she will be found attractive as a woman irrespective of her waist to hips ratio. Thus, on the basis physical attraction being obviously a core element of people being attracted to one another, and she will continue to be found attractive it follows there is not a marked effect on her ability to attract a mate.
The same is not true of guys. There is a much greater degree of stigma in non-platonic interaction where a guy is overweight. Without that competitive advantage so to speak he will not have the admiring glances thrown at him nor be the subject of whispered conversations he is not privy to. Without the fairly lean toned physique (excepting that some women like skinny non-muscular men) there would definitely not be the same lack of variation in his likelihood of attracting a mate as in the case of girls.
In long term marriages and the like where there is a bond that allows one to overlook such issues or for people to look at their partner and see them as more attractive than they are it is not the same issue, at all. Additionally, were that relationship to end and the male re-enter the arena so to speak he would experience the above.