OK, here's the story, I'm not in the same situation that you and your girlfriend are in but my roomate is. They fight about it ALL the time, And we live in the dorms, so I hear EVERYTHING, so I feel like I AM in that situation. First just keep in mind that since you two are at different colleges, the temptation is there, wiether or not she'll take it is up to her, but her joining a sorority will not increase the teptation! Many many girls that aren't greek, still go to frat houses. There is no rule saing only sorority girls can attend. And as for iniation...don't worry about that...it's not like most people think it is. Maybe when social time comes around you could pay a visit to her college, and if you can't you shouldn't object on her taking a guy friend (if that is all they are) Oh, and about that female pledge thing, I never had to do that, ya know if she joined a sorority that made her do that, and someone found out, that group could get kicked off campus. That is hazing and is illegal. I think the whole thing breaks down into a trust thing. Don't you? Your girlfriend is in college now, you have to give her the space she needs, and the trust she deserves. But when she does join a sorority, and she doesn't have every minute of every day to spend on the phone with you don't jump to conclusion about where she has been....greeklife takes up A BUNCH of time! Hope thing work out for the best and I hope I could help you a little bit! Good Luck!!!!
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