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Originally posted by Munchkin03
I know I'm taking a break from my chapter, even though I'm close enough to go to everything if I really really wanted to. I don't see myself doing a lot for my chapter other than donations until all the women who are currently there graduate. I did so much for my chapter, right up until the end, that I need a little break from the drama that ensued; I don't want to be perceived as being a busybody or without a life. I just need Me time that doesn't involve my chapter.
That's not to say that I'm not active. If the chapter was in serious trouble, I would be there in a heartbeat. I am a member of the local alumnae group and I helped the chapter where I'm a grad student during their recruitment.
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This is my view at the moment right now too!! Having become an Alum in December, I have stepped back from the chapter more than I really thought that I would.
As a collegian, I was one of the most active members in and out of the chapter and also held VP positions on exec during some of our "rough times". My last semester was one of the toughest because I was the oldest member, VP Membership, and the only one left from my pledge class. Because of this, I was constantly bombarded with questions, bitch sessions, and issues around the house which everyone seemed to think I could fix. I truly enjoyed knowing that my sisters looked to me for guidance but eventually it was overwhelming.
I began to branch out to get away from the chapter and transition into alumnae status. I volunteered to help at Case Western Reserve with expansion of our newest colony in September and then went back in January to help with recruitment. I also interviewed with EO for a position as a Collegiate Development Consultant. I would eventually love to work closely with the Fraternity nationally, but I am also not opposed to helping my collegiate chapter.
I will always be willing to help when and if they need me and also step up to an advisory position when the time comes (or if I'm still in the area). But there is also a need for separation in between there. You do grow more respect for your organization when you step back and take a break from it, and sometimes you also see more flaws....
All I can say is...if you have the opportunity to contribute, do it. You'll only grow more as a person and as a member, but also know that if you are taking on too much or getting back into it sooner than expected to rethink it and analyze your options. Membership is for a lifetime....if you don't feel the need to help right away, you will still help in the future.