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A relationship therapist would probably have a field day with me. I have not been totally single since prior to February 1988...before that I was kind of the typical high school gal drifting from boy to boy, nothing serious. But when I started dating my ex it got serious very quickly. We were going strong for a little over 2 years, when I started to get a bit restless. My ex was pretty much a psycho and I was very dependent upon him emotionally because he really was my best friend....almost like having a cool gay guy to hang out with (actually, if he had been gay he would have been perfect....he'd still be my best girlfriend!) I started going out with someone else behind his back who had no real boyfriend potential in my eyes but with whom I shared a tremendous physical connection. After that I tried to break up with my ex but he wouldn't go....it just got easier to let him think he was still around. So I was still involved with him throughout my first two years of college even though we both hung out with other people as well. He got to the point where he refused to see other girls, no matter what I was doing, and pressed the issue of a serious future. But I just kept on dating other people and actually got to the point where I pretty much abused the arrangement. Fortunately, he transferred to school on the other end of the country, and I was able to really branch out and meet people without having to worry about him. That was when my husband and I began dating, and I finally called my ex and told him I was in love with someone else. Even then he didn't totally leave me alone until after I had been married for about a year! It sounds pretty cold and heartless on my side but I didn't want to make a post that took up three pages, so I just cut to the point. But this guy was a frightening type of psycho, like a major stalker type, and I did what was necessary to have a life. I don't know what I would do with myself if I were suddenly on my own now!
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