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I've been there and done that, twice now. While I prefer to date guys with no children, I have dated two who had kids.
The first was a fluke- I didn't know the guy had a kid until it slipped out one day. The problem- he was 17 (I was 16) and his son (who he claimed was his "cousin") was 3. A 14 year old from a highly affluent family having a kid... and the neighbor across the street (17 when she got pregnant) is the mom... scary, isn't it? What was really sad was that this guy couldn't live up to the responsibilities of being a father. The kid lived with grandma across the street, didn't really know his mother, and my ex called it "babysitting" when he was required to watch his son (very rare). Lucky for that child, he was being raised by two excellent sets of grandparents. Needless to say, that relationship didn't last long... I didn't want to be looked at as mommy by this child. I only wonder where the kid is now... he's almost 10 years old.
The other guy I dated was 24 and had a 3 year old daughter who he didn't want at first, but loved with all his heart. The guy had major baby's momma drama... he hated the mother, but adores his daughter. I was able to deal with the fact that he had major responsibilities, but although he is a great and supportive father, he had ZERO to bring to a relationship. Well, maybe his Tom Cruise looks. We didn't date for long (he has a new girlfriend who has a 3 year old son- happy family) but we have remained very good friends... I even bought his daughter a gift when I came home from Mexico.
To my point- it's really your own decision on whether or not you can handle dating someone with a child... their responsibility should go to the child first... and it may be hard to deal with if you're needy for attention
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