My husband and I have both seperate and joint accounts. I pay the monthly bills. He does NOT know that I get a big fat bonus check every year from my job; he only sees the year-end tax forms that he has to sign
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As far as sexual partners, suffice it to say that we each know everything that has happened since we said I DO; anything before that day almost 11 years ago is irrelevant since we have taken all precautions to make sure that neither of us brought any sexual baggage into the relationship.