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Originally posted by AggieDZ
OH NO!!!
I really hate being a killjoy, I promise. Please, you've got to believe me on this one.... But, if here you've got this girl hooked (thinkin your "so sweet for wanting to take it slow")*HELLO NICE GUY*, then turns the tables and says you just want to try the "friends with benefits, but maybe something might work out" (I call BULLSHIT!!)*HELLO ASSHOLE*. Well, what's a girl to do? You just told her that you expect benefits, if there's even to be a friendly relationship. So, she caved.
Lifesaver, I've really liked ya buddy.... But something ain't right here. If you've not really had the "time" for dating in the past, (did you really not have time for the friends with benefits type of thing you offered to this girl?), and now suddenly when you're abt. to graduate you start looking to date only to end up with "friends with benefits?" I don't get it. It really sounds like you're kinda confused abt. what you're looking for too.
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I think she hit this one on the head. Why did you tell her you didn't want a realtionship when you do?
I think the biggest difference between assholes and nice guys is the nice guys are upfront and honest with themselves and their partners about what they want in any relationship. Jerks cover whatever they need to cover to make things go right. Of course, that never works for long. The other big difference between guys that girls want to stay with, and guys that girls don't want is independence. Anyone who is clingy, overly dependent, or seems like a push-over is a turn-off. Most girls want guys who are independent, can hold their own, and help them be the best person they can be. Do not confuse being nice with being a door mat.
I totally didn't notice this was old... whoops