I'm with Vlakyrie on this one. Most of us like pretty easily and casually so if there aren't some serious sparks right away you know there is something not quite right.
You can grow to be fond of people, you can grow to be quite fond and love people with a deep connection, but thats different froma true romantic love as we normally think about it.
Like Valkyrie I know a lot of people that do it like that because its comfortable and safer, or the initial romantic relationship turned into that kind of routine affection, but thats certainly not the kind of love affair the Poets will write about.
Its like my "methadone theory" of comfortable relationships, but thats another thread.
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Originally posted by valkyrie
If I don't feel intense, amazing sparks right away, I wouldn't bother with the guy. It sounds harsh, but even the most intense feelings in the world fade a bit after you've been with someone for a while -- I wouldn't want to start off not having very much chemistry. I know that many women have serious, long term relationships with guys they weren't really into at first and the attraction had to develop over time, but I could never do it.
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