Tip/Advice

1. Love, Love, Love Yourself.
There’s only one of you, so love you to death!

2. Stop Playing the Victim.
Martyrdom is totally unnecessary for today’s Black woman. Your first allegiance is to yourself. Without a strong sense of self, there is no way that you can tackle the ups and downs of a relationship or the rigors of motherhood (if you so choose).

3. Stop Settling for Less.
A piece of a man is definitely not better than a whole healthy man. Your desperation is showing.

4. Stop Trying to Be a Savior.
If a man doesn’t have his head together and is on the skids, it is not up to you to try to save him. You are neither his mother nor his therapist. Let him go and move on. Men like this will bring you down if you aren’t careful.

5. Learn to Exhale Between Relationships.
In other words...no transitional lovers. Someone always end up being hurt and it could be you...again, or that poor man. Neither one of you deserves to be hurt or used. Give yourself some down time.

6. Learn the Difference Between Being Alone and Lonely.
Being alone is by choice and loneliness is only temporary. Get out and enjoy yourself. Wallowing in loneliness can often make women desperate for attention and lead then into unhealthy relationships.

7. Don’t Allow Any Man to Validate You.
Allowing any man to define who you are as a woman leaves you open to being controlled and eventually abused. Why give a man that type of power over you? Now, do you really want to be the kind of woman who thinks that her life if not complete unless she has a man in it...any man? Where is your self-respect?