Oh my gosh! I'm dealing with the same thing right now. Luckily, we only dated for a few weeks. But for the sake of niceness or hoping he would "grow" on me, I hung around. Meanwhile, he was digging me more and more and I was become irritated. He was a nice guy and not the type of guy I usually go for, but had issues (smoking) and old baggage(prison record, gang activity) from when he was younger that I couldn't get over. Even though in the beginning I was reluctant.

In the beginning I thought well I'm always complaining about being lonely and here's someone showing interest. But there was no attraction. We talked and agreed that a friendship should develop, but after a couple of weeks I could see that he was wanting to build something for long-term. He'll be 32 next month and kept discussing how he didn't want to be lonely at 40 and would like to have another child.

I just ended it today. Although a family is something I desire. I know that I am nowhere near ready to be a wife or mother. Reading everyone's experience about this subject has been very beneficial for me.