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Unfortunately, there is nothing you can do about this particular situation. You are too far removed from the 6 degrees of separation to get involved.
But I would question your friend, and ask would he act the same if it was YOU in this situation? Is his friend a drama queen and he isn't pursuing this because he thinks he's lying (a la Jack from Will and Grace who claims to have slept with everyone)? Would he cover for every man or just because this is his ex? If you don't like his answer, cut him loose. You don't need people like that in your inner circle.
I have homosexual friends and no amount of "keeping on the DL" is going to allow them to let me (or my friends) stay, get involved or even date a man that is lying to me about his lifestyle. Its one thing if you tell me the truth and I chose to be with you-its another to be living a secret life and think I don't have the right to now.
Here's my personal tale-one of my dearest friends is gay and when he came to me (about another friends new boyfriend) it was out of concern because his friend told him about a past fling with this man. I didn't have to investigate because we are friends and there is no reason on earth for him to lie to me about this and he wouldn't have brought it too me if he didn't believe it was true. I forwared the info to my girl who admitted she felt there was something off but was scared to say anything. She finally asked, ole boy got mad and denied but it was obvious that he was lying and she broke it off. She later reconfirmed it was true when with a different group of friends the convo about people on the dl came out and a 3rd party was talking about his ex that worked at XYZ company and how frustrated he was at the time because he wouldn't take him to corporate events etc. Turns out he was talking about the same person she used to date. He's currently engaged to another woman who is in denial about his lifestyle (she was told and has chosen to believe his denials).
I have no sympathy for this (or any brother) that does this. Live your life how ever you chose, just be honest. More than likely sister girl doesn't know and when she finds out he'll have he*% to pay. But you never now, she may have been warned and has chosen to dig her head in the sand.
But I can't stand enablers who stand around and say nothing-they'll be the first one's gossiping about it when it hits the fan!
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