Lost sister -
Your situation sounds similar to something one of my sisters went through her senior year. All the sisters she was close with had graduated and the sisters running the show brought her in front of standards board on a bunch of charges - drinking too much, etc. - that they themselves were all doing. It was terrible - I mean, this girl was so dedicated to the sorority, and for her to get treated like this was a travesty. The other alumnae and myself basically eneded up being her sisters that year. The whole thing was out of petty jealousy - she was the prettiest and most popular girl in the chapter and people were envious of her and wanted to bring her down.
I hope that they gave you more concrete reasons than "inappropriate actions" - that is a catchall BS term for anything that someone wants to use, it could be something as lame as wearing letters with no makeup on. You have a right to know EXACTLY what it is you are doing that is ticking people off. If someone's mad that you stole their man, they need to have the balls to come out and tell you so.
Your standards policy should go something like this - you get brought in front of standards board, are told EXACTLY what the charges are against you, are given a chance to stop whatever it is you're doing (for example, blowing off events, excess alcohol consumption). If there's not a change in your behavior, then your name is brought to the whole sisterhood for termination (aka disaffiliation). You can plead your case then they vote. If you wish to appeal the vote, you can go to your nationals. at every step of this process, proper documentation should take place.
If steps similar to these weren't taken - I am assuming everyone's termination of membership process is more alike than different - then contact your province director or a national officer immediately. (I'm bypassing the advisor, because it sounds like she doesn't know what she's doing and is just listening to whatever exec board tells her.) Don't allow yourself to be "railroaded." It's just the same as you can't be sentenced without a trial. It kind of sounds to me like you made some mistakes when you were younger and that these newer sisters are just now finding out about them. Perhaps you did, but as Barb stated, the sisters who gave you a bid obviously didn't care. Past is past. You say that the new members and sophomores are on your side - keep them close to you, and let the exec board know if they want to get rid of you, they might lose some other members too.
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