The part about your story that really stands out is about too many inappropriate acts on too many occasions. This leads me to believe that there have been some incidents that the exec and/or the advisors consider to have reflected poorly on the chapter.
That being said. Almost every group I know of has a standard judicial process and it must be followed. A chapter cannot 'kick' you out without procedure being followed. Have you been sent to judicial for these acts? And if so, were consequences laid out for you if the incidents repeated themselves? If the answer is yes, then it seems (for what little I see) that they may have grounds for wanting you to leave.
Now, before you get miffed, hear me out.
If there is a standard judicial process AND your chapter has not cited you through this process they are in error. You are an initiated sister and if nothing else, deserve respect on that account. Additionally, if these incidents took place before you even joined the chapter, they obviously weren't so bad that the chapter felt they shouldn't offer you a bid. Bringing these incidents up now is petty and looking for excuses.
Is there another advisor or regional/provincial/national officer that you trust and can talk to? That should be your next line of contact if (and only if) you have not had an official, 'on the record' discussion with the exec and pertinent advisors. If you are only being talked to by one or two members, independent of an official meeting, in my opinion, they are not handling this in a mature manner nor are they following what is surely national procedure.
Your options are as follows: try and resolve the issue internally, using your contacts as needed and
follow national procedure and local by-laws. Your other option is to apply for alumnae status before the issue reaches a point where they remove your membership, thereby excluding you from participating in alumnae life.
Good luck..feel free to email me privately.
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Fraternally,
Barbara
Zeta Tau Alpha Alumna
If you have to go around telling everyone you're in charge you're not much of a leader.
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[This message has been edited by PnguinTrax (edited October 18, 2000).]