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Well you should go to her first. The questions is, are you intimidated by her position? That would be normal.
Oddly enough GLO's have no real mechanism for what to do when there is a problem between chapters and their advisors, so usually nothing gets brought into the open and there is a lot of bitterness and resentment.
I would get the e-board on the same page and then write her an email expressing your concerns and proposing as a soltution that you set up some procedures for how to deal with chapter issues.
Its perfectly reasonable for you to request that when she wants to yell at you for a reason that you don't even know about that the whole chapter doesn't have to get the email.
ITs also perfectly reasonable to ask her not to threaten you with removal just to enforce attendance at a meeting. You aren't her daughter lol.
Offer to establish a permanent method of dialogue, as far as when you will talk to her, say weekly.
When she wants the chapter to change, ask her to put it in writing, with reasons, and send it it before the next time you will be physically meeting her. That gives you time to think about it. So you can discuss it loigically.
Basically you want to avoid situations whre she just walks in the room and takes charge because you aren't prepared for what she is going to say and you are a little intimidated by both her age/experience and positon in the sorority.
When she comes to an exec meeting, or you have a meeting with her, keep notes. Thats what secretares are for. If its a private meeting, record it, and/or take after meeting notes. That way you have records if there is a problem. Why should anyone take your word over hers?
This stuff will not get better with time. My own lack of a good relationship and communication with one of our own advisors really led to problems in the chapter. Major problems that took years to work themselves out. And because of that a lot of people were robbed of the total experience they could have had.
If you give us a little more information we can refine our advice.
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