[bluethunder]

this is my take on the "dating greek" situation:

yes, i, too, have been involved in a relationship with a fraternity man and it was AWESOME simply because there were some things that we could talk about that we genuinely knew the other understood completely because we had both "been there and done that"; he understood the late nights to do stuff for the chapter, all the nights out hanging with my sorors, and so on because he was also doing very similar things... that was in undergrad...
now we all now grad chapter is different because while we are sisters, many alumnae members have husbands and children and careers to look after... it's understood that we all have obligations that need to be met outside of SIGMA.

long story made short, i will share with you what an older soror told me a little while ago:
everyone knows that when it comes to being with my chapter, hands down, my little alumnae butt is there first, i'm the last to leave, and i hardly EVER miss an event... the last social event we had, a soror called me out... she said, "didn't i hear you say you had a date tonight?" i replied, "yes, that was him that called a few minutes ago." she said, "girl, you better get out of here! it's getting late and we appreciate you coming, but, child, you don't want to mess up a good thing!"

to put it simply: there is never chosing between love and the Sorority. you put your priorities together and follow them. i love SIGMA, but i will NOT jeopardize my educational, professional, or even romantic obligations for the sorority-- and since i have my priorities straight, i will never have to "choose" one or the other. they are all important. i will sacrifice for SIGMA, no question. but i will not let my man go lacking('cause i got one, y'all!) or anything else that means something to me just so i can "be out" for the blue and gold.
tell that your man what our soror told me: "don't mess up a good thing." holla at your boy in a constructive fashion and remind him that while the organization is important, it's not a full time job and he needs to balance his relationship with you just as he balances everything else.