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Originally posted by ChaosDST:
I do not think the issue of the homothug has anything to do with whether or not the African American community is accepting of homosexuality. If someone chooses to hide their sexuality, that's their business. Do not play the heterosexual during the day...and go out to gay male bars at night. That is as, or even more, deceptive as a man who messes around with other women. NO ONE should lead a double-life...and homosexuals are no different. Whether they are forced into secrecy or not, that is something they will have to deal with. You can not force others to accept, or have to deal with, your lifestyle.
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You're right: NO ONE
should lead a double-life. And I suppose if we lived in a perfect world, nobody would. But we don't.
As for the homothug issue, I think that the African-American community's attitudes towards homosexuality have a lot to do with the fact that so many African-American gay men, lesbians and bisexuals are reluctant to reveal their identities. If you knew that you would be discriminated against, ostracized and oppressed by your own people, I think that perhaps some people would think twice about being open about who they are.
It would be nice if everyone had the luxury of being open about themselves, but everyone doesn't. And frankly, (going back to negative attitudes about homosexuality) when a GLBT person comes out, they do have to worry about their safety, or sometimes their lives.
Like I said, I think people should take responsibility for their personal actions. For instance, nobody makes anybody engage in sex without protection. That's a choice they make.
But our society's and community's part in this is not lost on me at all.
And no you can't
force anyone to like or accept you or the things you do or the decisions you make. However, there is the certain issue of basic human respect. And, honestly, a lot of gays and lesbians don't get that basic human respect from people in their own communities. And that's just real.
Just my .25 cents.