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Originally posted by ztabchbum
For those of you that think that living together is a bad idea - do you ever plan to get married? And when and if you do, do you plan to live together? It's the same thing! So what if it doesn't work out if you try to live together before getting married. At least you found out before the wedding! I mean come on people. Living with your significant other is a great way to truly get to know them. I love my Travis and we fight and we make up and we do EVERYTHING together. Hell, we can't go an hour without calling each other. Speaking of which, here I am at work and he has the day off and my phone is a buzzing....gotta run. Move in together and try it out. It's just a lease - it can be broken if need be but at least give it a try! 
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Yes I do plan to get married but I don't need to cohabitate to see if it works or not. The serious relationships/engagements I have been in all gave me a window into living with them since we spent a lot of time together. Trips, staying over, house sitting, spending more time together due to demonic roommates, you get to realize things without signing a lease or moving in together. By the time I actually marry someone, I will know these details, or I would NOT be marrying them. I also have taken a few classes and more often than not the research therein has shown that people who live together before marriage, divorce more often. (The theory being that the whole committment of marriage isn't viewed as strongly by people who have had the option to just move out, though there are others as well). I also know plenty of people who move in together, and IF they ever have gotten married, they divorce.
I can see why people want to live together, but it just isn't for me. I'm with Hootie on most of this, it is all about premarital counselling, and I know there are plenty of men with the free milk, no cow purchase agenda. However I avoid those guys like the plague. After my wedding and honeymoon I want to have this whole new experience to look forward to, not come home and it be the same. If I have waited this long, what is a few more months?