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Originally posted by Hootie
Yes I plan to marry someday, but I believe living together before marriage puts certain strains on the relationship that a marriage could handle. A lot of people who get married go through marriage counceling to help them get through the bumps in the road that occur at the beginning of the relationship (and as a result of living together). People who are NOT married, often do not have the same sort of approach. If something goes bad, one person can just leave because its easy (or so they think).
Breaking a lease isn't that easy by the way. It ends up costing someone a LOT of money if they a) couldn't afford the rent to continue to live there on their own, or b) get stuck paying $2000-$3000 to break the lease. Not to mention that if they can't afford it, that ends up on their credit.
ETA: Another reason I'm against un-engaged couples living together is that it can lead one party to believe things are going further when in fact they might not. Also, it is my opinion, that if a couple who isn't engaged lives together, the male doesn't see the hurry or need to further the relationship to an engagement level...like that old saying...why buy the cow when the milk is free?!
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ARGH! I hate people that think that way. It's so frustrating. I guess I'm just more of a free thinker and positive person than a lot of other people. It is easy to break a lease - there are many loop holes and although it can be a stressful process it can be done swiftly. Besides that, your point about the male furthering the relationship really gets under my skin. If he's gonna propose, he'll propose. If he doesn't - he never would have. If you're thinking about moving in with your gf/bf talk with them in depth first about all different scenarios that might occur - including breaking up and dealing with the lease. Talking up front helps eliminate/dissolve problems when they occur. My boyfriend and I have had some SERIOUS blow outs while living together (he didn't speak to me for 2+ weeks not all that long ago). But we work through it just as we have with everything else that's gone on. I don't know what I would do without him and I know he feels the same way. you just have to at least try. See if there is a place you can rent on a month to month basis or for a short term lease to test the waters. Good luck!