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No offence hon but advice point one is don't post such a question on the web (publicly) with your letters in your signature when a local.
Ignoring problems doesn't generally make them go away. Additionally, allowing such a problem to continue is not an option for the continued solidarity of the group to flourish. It is up to your group whether they allow her to continue but allowing her to continue AND for the behavior to continue should not be an option.
You hint that there are processes to deal with this although seldom used. My suggestion (it is only my personal thoughts on the matter I hasten to add - entire post) is look into exactly what these processes are - with alumnae help if necessary to make sure you're familiar with them.
Have the committee or President/Standards person speak with her informally to express concern and that it must cease; maintain that if it continues she will be referred to the standards board / dealt with under the sorority's disciplinary rules. If her behavior continues after the warning, then deal with her under those rules under which the ultimate sanction (in this case) would be expulsion from the group.
There will also be some people who would take the view (like cancelling an engagement versus cancelling a marriage) if someone is a pledge and something like this happens then just get rid of them as getting rid of an active (perhaps more with nationals) is harder. This is up to you, smaller groups often want to hang onto existing members and who knows the person may improve and go on to be a great person in your org. One way or another, do act.
Good luck.
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