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Originally posted by AXJules
Don't get me wrong. It's flattering, and sweet. And it means more knowing that they didn't feel that way when they first met me, but it was my personality that made it happen. Fine. Great. But it is kind of upsetting when you start friendships going"We're so platonic! This is awesome!" and then you just feel like you've been lied to....and I know it isn't always deliberate but it is kind of a let down sometimes.
And you don't want to start every friendship going "just so you know, I have no attraction to you...." b/c then it makes it sound like you just assume everyone's attracted to you...God could a person sound more conceited?
OY such is life.
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Jules I feel exactly the same way and I couldnt have said it better myself. It is flattering to think that it is your personality that ends up making a difference but when you go into it knowing you're not interested and then you start thinking hey he might want more out of this its a tough place to be...
I'm beginning to realize that maybe I missed the subliminal messages and even the times I did notice something I chose to avoid them rather than deal with them. Maybe if I had voiced my thoughts at the time then he would have known where I stood and not attempted to persue taking the relationship further.
Its also hard for me not to befriend guys because being in the computer science field I am definitely a minority. So unless I want to spend the rest of my days not speaking to most of my coworkers/classmates I have to befriend the guys. Drama drama drama....