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First of all, no one has come off as mean. I appreciate honesty and forthrightness MUCH more than pat anwers from well meaning people that only want to tell me what they think I want to hear.

I know I don't have to have a boyfriend, but after while, being 26, single with a married younger brother and a family that continuously wants to know if there are any prospects and when they get grandchildren can make you forget for a little while. It's not that I am looking so hard, but that he's so persistent. There for a while it seemed that it might be easier to be with him than take a chance on getting to know someone new in the future. Knowing that he loves me made it appealing for a little while. I told him that we're not getting back together, that the reasons we didn't work out still exist and they're not going to change. James - that doesn't mean something's wrong with him, just means that we're wrong for each other. And the "It's not you it's me" thing? THAT is more cruel than explaining and telling the truth. I don't feel that it's right to blow someone off without explanation when you have cared so much for them in the past and when they care so much for you. Random hookups, yes, blow them off and it's fine. I don't think it's that way for someone you had a meaningful relationship with just because that relationship no longer exists.

I appreciate the kind words and advice. Thanks a bunch!

Crystal