Greetings to the ladies of Delta Sigma Theta, and all other posters.
My perspective on discretion:
The most difficult challenge with respect to discretion occurred
after I initiated. Two of my closest friends had become Candidates, and were facing a challenge that caused them to question every aspect of their reasons for persuing sisterhood with my sorority. It was a difficult challenge, but it was up to them to resolve it.
They assumed (because of our friendship) that I would be forthcoming about specific details relating to their challenge, and in fact resolve it for them. They were hurt, puzzled, and seeking some kind of equilibrium, because I remained tight-lipped. I knew they were questioning my loyalty as a friend, because of my reticence.
If only they knew...
...but then, part of candidate education is to learn to have faith and trust in those who may be their future Sisters, whether they are your best friends or veritable strangers.
Moral of the story:
Most of all, be most aware and careful of the need for discretion closest to home. It can seem to be a hurtful situation...but if there is trust, and discretion, things will become right.
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Pure as Silver, and True Blue!
Alpha Sigma Kappa - Women in Technical Studies
[This message has been edited by equeen (edited April 18, 2001).]