[aephi alum]

I thought I'd throw this question out for debate -

What's the "going rate" for a wedding gift in your area these days? What would you say is the dollar amount where if you spend less on a gift, you come across as cheap? Is it different for a first vs. second wedding? Is it most common to give cash, a gift from the registry, or a gift that's not on the registry but is unique in some way? Or a hand-made gift?

I've been thinking about this because my husband and I have been invited to three weddings this summer. We're inclined to be generous, especially since my husband will be in one of the weddings. I don't think any of the couples are registered (I need to double check) so I'm inclined to find a unique gift rather than giving cash.