[aephi alum]

OK, so this is the situation as I understand it. Be aware that I'm unfamiliar with the greek system in question.

1. The ADPi chapter is small.
2. The ADPi's feel that other chapters are bad-mouthing them, especially during rush.
3. Some members of other chapters feel that ADPi has talked smack about them.

For point 1, I feel your pain. I recently posted a thread about my concerns regarding my chapter's size. I do have to commend the other sororities at my school, though, for not bad-mouthing us... the only thing I fault them for is going to deferred recruitment without re-evaluating total.

For points 2 and 3, if this is what's going on (from either side) it's very immature and un-Panhellenic. If XYZ badmouths ABC and ABC retaliates by blasting XYZ, that just makes both XYZ and ABC look bad. Two wrongs don't make a right. It's doubly wrong during rush; the message during rush should be "Go XYZ", not "Don't go ABC".

The fact is, it doesn't matter who started what. ADPi is small and needs to regroup and recruit and grow back to a viable size. The other sororities and their members need to give ADPi the space they need to do that. Among other things, that means no bad-mouthing - of any sorority, by any sorority.

ETA: Aphigal... you hit the nail on the head!