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Originally posted by valkyrie
I disagree. I think that most people answering here (and I don't mean you, lovelyivy84) have no concept of this situation.
I was separated when I started dating Mr. valkyrie, so I've been on the other side. Despite g8ralphaxi's kind words, I don't think that I or my ex were "screwed up in the head" -- it just wasn't working out and it's that simple. My separation was not a "legal" separation, and thus there was no paperwork involved. I don't see any "karmic" issue here at all, and never thought that I should sit at home alone until my divorce was final.
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Valkyrie, I'm sorry. I think my words sounded harsher than I meant them to be. I have several friends and family members who I love very much and who have gone through divorce and they are good people.
What I meant to say is that in my opinion, the risk of someone "a few beers short of a six pack" being involved in the situation might be a little higher when you date someone who is almost-divorced-but-not-quite. Anyone who's ever dated a guy with a psycho ex-girlfriend knows how unpleasant that can be. If the ex-girlfriend is instead legally still attached to your guy, it's an even bigger mess.
I certainly did not mean to insinuate that all people who get divorced must be screwed up in the head. Sometimes, like you said, it just doesn't work out, and it's not really anyone's fault.