[Lil' Hannah]

Originally posted by NOWorNEVER
Waaaaaaaaaaaiit a minute....dude from NC said he's looking for someone to be his "boy" in the streets but his "man" in the sheets. WOW. This really makes me wonder how many of our black men are out there frontin'...chillin' with men we think are their "homeboys" and behind closed doors, they are sexin. This is crazy and it really makes me sad. I just can't get over how fine AND masculine they are. *smh*

Ladies, picture yourself in this scenario: You start dating someone who turns out to be your soulmate. Y'all are feelin' each other and this is the man of your dreams. He's everything you've ever wanted in a companion and mate. You can see yourselves spending the rest of your lives together. Intellectually, spiritually, mentally, sexually, etc. you are on the same level. Before you know it, two years has passed and you begin making plans for the future. Then one day, he sits you down and says, "Look baby, before we can take this thing to the next level, I need to tell you something about my past. Please know that I love you and I wanna spend the rest of my life with you but before we got together, I used to have sex with both men and women."
How do you react??? You've just spent two of the best years of your life with this man you thought you knew?? Is it possible to move on and forget his past?

I have to ask, is this a fairly regular occurrence in the AfAm community? It's been discussed in this thread and in the "what if he's celibate?" thread. I guess I hear about men (of all races) who are married with a family and then come out, but it just didn't seem to be something that occurred all that often. Is it a cultural thing?