Don't listen to her Rachel . . your best bet is to meet as many men as possible and have carnal relations with them . . . that way you can sort through them and find the best one.
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As far as where to meet them . . anywhere is good, but likely you will have to approach them outside an conventional pick up setting . . like a bar.
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Originally posted by aurora_borealis
Rachel, I am going to try and say this in the nicest way possible, and if I anger you, shoot me a PM or IM.
You are twenty years old, you have plenty of time to meet people and get married. You aren't going to school for health reasons, and I have been there myself, it isn't easy. The best thing I can tell you is this: concentrate on getting to know YOU and less on finding someone. Sure we all like having someone special in our lives, but when it becomes an all consuming boy crazy fevor, it isn't healthy. I am happy that you are involved in Chabad and exploring your faith. There is no need for any man or woman to find someone to COMPLETE them, but to COMPLIMENT the person they are.
Sometimes when people are so hellbent on meeting someone and coupling up, it scares away potential mates. Just spend time doing things for yourself, work, enjoy Chabad, and when the right man comes along, you will know. It is better to be single and like who you are with happiness and loving friends and family; than to be with a man for the sake of being with a man. You have your whole life ahead of you, enjoy the time you have now when you can do anything you want.
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