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Another angle on the SIP question...
In therapy, if a client asks us "What should I do?" we are not to suggest or tell them what to do (Don't panic...I'm not talking hurting self or others...middle of the road kind of stuff like "Should I break up with him?" etc.). What we are to do is talk with them about all of their options andmake sure they understand the possible consequences of each option. In SIP, I would make sure the PNM knew about the chances of her not getting a bid, getting a bid, not fitting in, fitting in with another group, the whole "waiting for a year" thing, etc. I think I'd also ask her what draws her to that one particular group, and what drew her to her other pref groups. Ask her lots of questions to get some answers out of her and try to get her to see the pros and cons of each choice. Sometimes a PNM HAS to SIP....there's no other way they would be happy, they've thought about it, and they know that's the answer for them. Other PNMs see it as "Well, if I put two choices, they'll think I want each of them half as much. If I only put one choice, they will know that I want that one 100% and they'll give me a bid because they are all 100% XYZ and I want them to know that I'm 100% XYZ too."
We all promote our orgs soooooo much during recruitment to every PNM that some who aren't savvy to the ways of recruitment (as well as victims of Greek systems who don't educate their PNMs) will see it as "Wow. The best house on campus is soooo nice to me. They must want me. I'm in." and they never think about what they want for themselves.
/ramble
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