[lovelyivy84]

I don't think it's close-minded to be worried about your personal emotional or even physical comfort/safety. People suffer from these illnesses to varying degrees, and I think that it's anyone's right to not date someone with a condition that they don't feel that they can deal with. I've suffered from one of the listed "illnesses" myself and can honestly say that I was better off not dating anyone at that time, because I had to worry about me in order to even begin treating what was wrong. My relationships were dysfunctional because I was.


It's like adopting a baby with AIDS. Would you criticize a couple that didn't want to take that child? It's not a reflection on the child, it's a reflection of what the parents feel their abilities are. Or for another example, would you criticize someone who didn't feel comfortable dating the deaf? or the blind? Some people are honest enough with themselves to know they aren't ready to handle that kind of relationship or the heavy emotional investment that dealing with someone who is ill can often require.

Anyone who told someone they were interested in of their condition should be mature enough to understand that the person they are telling might not be comfortable with it- that is after all the point of telling them, no? Finding out if they are in it for the long haul and willing to deal with the issues of dating someone mentally ill, whatever they might be? Being mad just because that person decides they can't is kinda pointless- the person who is ill is better off finding out that the individual can't deal with their illness this way than later.