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GREAT thread idea!
This is something I never knew till AFTER I had graduated...
When I went through recruitment, I had my heart set on an organization, so when I got asked back to them for third round(right before pref) and because I thought I had really connected with some of the girls, I felt so good. When I got to their philanthropy round, the girl that picked me up(we will call her RUSHER) said she was also from FL and and I that she had gone to my high school for her freshman year but had moved after that(and since she was a senior when I was rushing, she was long gone by the time I got to high school) She asked me if when I was at that school, had I known "Jane Doe", and me, being all excited about ANOTHER connection was like " oh yes, she is sooooo sweet--I knew her pretty well--we were in musicals together, blah, blah, blah"
The truth was, I did know the girl and we had been in musicals together , but I would not have considered her a good friend or anything.
Afterward, the girl rushing me was fine and we talked some more and I left thinking "I am soooo in at XYZ--I knew JANE DOE!!"
When I got my invites back the next day, I had been cut. I was DEVASTATED but I dealt with it okay and ended up LOVING AOTT and being a proud sister. I never really talked to anyone about being cut because it did really hurt.
Fast forward to my first year out of college and we are all at my BF from HS friend Sarah's house, talking about high school and random gossip and this girl who talked to me at that parties name comes up and I was like "wow, I never told you all this but she rushed me at XYZ and she seemed really sweet and asked me if I knew Jane Doe and I said I knew her but then XYZ dropped me--it was such a bad time"
They all look at me funny and are like "Les, the reason RUSHER transferred was she broke up Jane Doe and her boyfriend and Jane Doe made her life a LIVING HELL for a whole year". I had not known this but I guess everyone of my friends who had older brothers and sisters had heard the stories of how awful this girl was to her.
Moral of the story---just because you think you feel this connection, doesn't mean its for the right reason!!
I actually live in fear at times that maybe that RUSHER would have taken me and then made my life a living hell for being friends with Jane Doe!!
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