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Originally posted by SKEEphistAKAte
I don't think that your relationships with them have to end entirely, but you need to take a step back. I would say try to objectively think about how you would feel if your significant other had a female best friend. Consider what you would and would not be happy with. The thing is to be OBJECTIVE about it, not making excuses. Also, I think that a good thing to do is for you to double date. If you have good male friend who is seriously dating someone else, you should double date. That way, his girlfriend has the opportunity to see you with someone else and that will kind of qualm her issues with you wanting her man. Hopefully she will see that there is no romantic interest between you and her man and that in fact, you are very much involved with someone else. Plus, if she is really that important to your friend, you should respect her as such and maybe even seek out a friendship with her. This discussion reminds me of the movie Brown Sugar.
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Thanks for the feedback.
My main concern is because the girlfriend is my friend too. I've know the guy for about 5 years and then I met the girl about a year ago because we worked together. They actually met one another at my house for a gathering before I moved out of state. So it's like, they're both my friends... that's what makes it a little more weird. It works out when she's having issues with him and she can talk to me about him (because I know him so well) but it's kind of uncomfortable when things come up that he told me but didn't tell her.
So what advice do you have for me considering they are both my friends?